A weighty issue

20 Mar

I’m curvy, I’m full figured, I’m round. Call me whatever. Weight is an issue for all of us no matter what size. I’m a bigger girl and short so it shows more. I have issues with my back hurting sometimes and finding clothes to be challenge, and finding age appropriate closes even more of a challenge. But the thing is I’m happy. If I don’t lose the weight right away and it takes me awhile, and I cheat a bit here and there, I’m happy, and healthy on top of that. Weight will always be an issue for me and it’s not that I can’t lose it, it just takes me longer. And well motivation is a big part of it. I’m also in a great relationship, and my boyfriend and I just moved in together not to long ago, so there is that honeymoon phase, the relationship freshman 15 that goes with it. But no matter what I’m still here happy.

What prompted me is this article that I read a few ago, and I’ll post it below. This woman lost 180 pounds and still was not happy with herself. It was a psychological thing. And it made me start thinking of a friend of mine. Everything she says, it all starts with her weight. She would be happier in her job, in her life, in finding someone to share her life with if she could start losing weight. And we all know when we’re bigger it sometimes take an emotional and psychological toll on us like my friend. Is it really our weight that causes us to not be happy? Or is it something else we’re not happy about and hide behind our weight as the problem?

Weight loss can be a great motivator in our life and it can also do the exact opposite. I know when I dropped 20 pounds I thought I looked better, but I didn’t feel better because I lost it in an unhealthy way. I was depressed, and wasn’t sleeping and I just stopped eating. Not because I was forcing myself not to eat, but because I was unhappy and didn’t feel hungry. Losing all that weight quickly didn’t make myself feel any better.

We can all look in the mirror no matter what size and say I wish I had a smaller belly, a better butt, smaller nose, a pant size smaller, bigger bust. As a woman we’ll never be happy with our body. And I’m tired of this. I’m tired of having that womanly trigger in me that says something can be changed on me. And I’m not going to do it anymore! If I want to lose weight I will, I will do it because I want my body aches and pains to feel better. I will lose weight for me and not because people look at me like oh my god just why are you like that. And I wish my friend was like this. I wish her happiness in herself to love herself the way she is now and the way she will be years down the road when she is a size 20 or a size 10. I wish all of us to be happy and remember no matter what size that you need to love yourself at any point.

Here is the link to the article:


2 Responses to “A weighty issue”

  1. marie-estycare March 25, 2013 at 11:33 pm #

    Women’s opinions of themselves and low self-esteem is truly an epidemic. It needs to be changed, but unfortunately I doubt society will ever stop portraying “beauty” in a certain way. You are absolutely right, you have to look into yourself and learn to love yourself no matter what, and do what is best for your health; not because of anyone else’s opinion. ❤

  2. Jenn March 25, 2013 at 11:53 pm #

    It’s really hard when society thrust a certain look we are suppose to be. The funny thing is, that majority of the women today are in a double digit size but yet fashion revolves around those in the single digit territory. I just don’t get it. I think anything over a size 8 is a plus size now? What is also crazy is by the medical standards due to my height I should be at least half my size. I know if I got down to that “ideal weight” I would look sickly. It’s just sad. It’s worse now then ever. Sometimes I wonder if they penalize us with our clothing choices because of it. Sorry I’m just ranting lol.

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